COVID-19 and Our Feelings

Oblivious (ə-ˈbli-vē-əs): 1 – lacking remembrance, memory, or mindful attention 2 – lacking active conscious knowledge or awareness In my daily conversations, I am often reminded that most of us are dangerously unaware of our thoughts and feelings. Although our post-modern lifestyles afford us a wealth of knowledge and personal activities, these often serve only…

Teletherapy FAQ – What is Distance Counseling?

What is distance counseling? Distance counseling, or teletherapy, is counseling that takes place via phone or video conference because the counselor and the client are in separate locations.  Clients and counselors may not be able to meet face to face for various reasons: the client is traveling for work or is on vacation the client…

Being a Thermostat in a Thermometer World

How often have you noticed your child copying your action, words, or thoughts? Maybe you were driving and heard your child in the back seat repeating, “Come on, people! The light is green! Go, go, go!” Or when you were mowing the lawn and your child got his toy lawnmower and started doing it alongside…

Tis’ the Season to Set Boundaries

What is the first thing you think of when you hear the word “boundary”? Maybe it’s a fence, gate or a towering wall. Psychologically and relationally, boundaries are assertive statements of limits used to describe feelings and needs, expressing what is “me” and my property, and what is “not me” and not my property. They…

Trauma: What It Is and How to Cope

In the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, one criteria for PTSD is “having a near death experience.” As a therapist, I’m not the judge of what is truly diagnosable as “trauma.” I personally believe the true judge of something being traumatic is how our bodies respond to it. Our bodies communicate many messages…

My Child Won’t Tell Me How They Feel

I often encounter parents who are concerned because their child doesn’t talk about their feelings. Whether it’s in response to a separation or divorce, the death of a loved one, bullying at school, or any other number of issues, parents desire to help their children talk through their emotions. But therein lies the problem: Children…